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Through dozens of stories and examples, he demonstrates that the apparent cause of our problems is almost never the real cause. In addition, he reveals what we really fear and how to face it. In the spirit of Stephen Grosz and Irving Yalom, Frederickson shows how to recognize the lies we tell ourselves and face the truths we have avoided–and stop saying yes when we really mean no.
Although we may use falsehoods to escape pain, clinging to our fantasies actually becomes the source of greater suffering. This book shows how to create a better life by letting go of our lies and facing reality. It also demonstrates that therapy is not merely a chat; it is a relationship between two people devoted to facing the deepest truths of our lives so we can be healed.
"The Lies We Tell Ourselves explodes our illusions so we might come into a true, authentic relationship with ourselves and others. The world is full of distortion and avoidance, but Jon creates a startling space where emotional truth can be fearlessly spoken. His writing has the feel of both psychological and spiritual mastery. His brilliant, richly informed, hard fought, and gritty wisdom is a gift to us all."
–Susan Warshow, MSW, Founder, DEFT Institute
"With a blast of truth, Frederickson–a world-class psychotherapy teacher–lays out the essentials of effective therapy. With clarity, a brilliant writing style, and many real-life examples, Frederickson shows us how a connection to the truth breaks down the walls and barriers that keep us from having a loving connection with others. The Lies We Tell Ourselves is destined to be a classic enjoyed by sensitive people (and their therapists) for generations to come."
–Thomas M. Brod, MD, Distinguished Fellow of the American Psychiatric Association, and Associate Clinical Professor, Psychiatry, David Geffen School of Medicine, University of California, Los Angeles
"This book is a revelation–a gift to all who come across it. I laughed and cried and, in the end, was filled with deep gratitude for life, just as it is–and for Jon Frederickson. His wisdom, as well as his willingness to be a witness and companion on the journey, is a blessing. Words pale in comparison with the profound and expansive experience offered here. I can't recommend this book highly enough!"
–Patricia Coughlin, PhD, author of Intensive Short-Term Dynamic Psychotherapy
"I wholeheartedly recommend this book to everyone who wants to see what therapy is really about or who wants to increase the value of the psychotherapy they engage in or offer to others."
–Peter Fenner, PhD, author of Radiant Mind and Natural Awakening